Friday, March 6, 2009


so I had my bi monthly check up today, and rather than discuss how the baby is doing and my plans, I got a lecture on how I need to sign up for labor classes and how men don't realize and take the time to make this a priority in their lives. The "Dr" went on to tell me that most men are not supportive and need to be prodded along in this new adventure and realize that their lives are going to change, and how much our lives are going to change and we had better realize this. Never once finding out how supportive my husband has been, or any background history. I can get that advice from those who know about us and our lives.
The thing is I have not yet signed up for classes because my husband has been taking an 8 week accelerated course at school as well as 3 full term classes. all our free time is homework, or church, or helping friends, or we moved, or going to my appointments with me. He class is done next week and the next labor class starts up in April, so we are going to take it next month. And my so called "un"supportive husband is looking forward to taking the classes, in fact he has been reading up on parenting books while I read the boring labor books, then we talk and share notes on the things that we find. And he is caring and calm and cuddly when I need him to be. I could not ask for a better man.
I don't like doctors, more later cause I have to leave for work. Which by the way I keep getting lectures on that on how my profession(massage therapist) is really hard normally and especially hard for pregnant women and to be careful, carpal tunnel is more common in pregnant women. Don't over do it. Oh my work is too much. I only work 3 hours a day with an hour break between every massage. I rest when I need to and drink lots of water. And I will be off as of next friday so that I do not over do it. I need to take care of my health and that of the baby. I think that people need to listen more and quit jumping to conclusions from a word or two. Grrrrr!

Thursday, March 5, 2009

A home

Ben and I recently moved out of our one bedroom apartment into a 3 bedroom house. This has been such a wonderful blessing in our lives. I am able to do things around the house and not feel like I am tripping over my dutiful husband while he is sitting and doing homework. We have the space to spread out, we still find each other in the same room and often sitting next to each other on the couch.
Although I did sometimes like the closeness that the smaller apartment afforded, I was concerned about when the baby came where we would put things, how was Ben going to study while the baby is crying or fussing, how I was going to take being in such a confined space for days on end, and the safety of the neighborhood. But now we have room for our growing family and a room just for the baby. I love this home.
One thing I love the most right now and missed intently in the apartment is the natural light. there are so many windows in this house. In the mornings and all day long we do not have to turn on lights to see. It is not til evening after the sun is down that we need to turn on a light. If I want it brighter I just need to open the blinds and let the sun shine in. wow. I love light. I feel so much more able to do things now. I do have to be careful though, cause I was not getting enough rest for a pregnant woman so my muscles tightened up and forced me to slow down and get the proper sleep. It is not that I don't sleep, I just see that there is so much to do and I will get to my nap later...but later never happens. So now I will nap when needed and eat more often.
Well this is kinda nice so far. I certainly type faster than I write and sharing my thoughts helps me to get out what I am feeling and not in negative ways all of the time.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009


Well, I have been looking a friends blogs and loving how all of you are able to share your lives with those you love and others and I am hoping that I will be able to do the same. I love the stories and the thoughts that are shared. I want to be able to get my thoughts out of my head and down so I can share them with others. This is my hope with this...we will see what happens.